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What Is it?

Everyone has stress. Studies have shown babies can even feel their mothers’ stress before they are born. Stress impacts people of all ages. Stress is your body reacting and responding to changes or difficulties in your environment. How you respond to stress will not be the same in every situation. It depends on the type of stress.

Types of Stress

There are 3 types of stress your child/teen is going to experience (and you, too).

  1. Positive Stress is a normal part of life and development. Positive stress can help your child/teen learn how to deal with stress in the future. It helps with brain development. Positive stress can be from something enjoyable, like a rollercoaster, performing, or competitive sports.
  2. Tolerable Stress is more serious than positive stress. It can be from longer lasting or more difficult challenges. This could be like a breakup or death. It sets off the body’s stress response to a greater degree than positive stress. A healthy relationship with an adult can help to lessen the negative impacts of stress on the brain and body.
  3. Toxic Stress is severe, prolonged, or frequent stress. This could be from abuse, a parent/caregiver having a mental illness or addiction, seeing violence, and more. Toxic stress occurs when a child/youth does not have a supportive adult relationship. It increases the risk of health issues later in life. It can change the development of a person’s brain. A supportive adult relationship and healthy coping skills can make all the difference.

Signs of Stress

There are many different signs of stress. You might notice some of the following signs in your child/teen when they are stressed.

You might notice your child/teen complaining about the following:

Physical Signs

  • Headache
  • Tense muscles
  • Chest pains
  • Tired
  • Upset stomach
  • Issues sleeping
  • Butterflies in their stomach
  • Tingling sensation in your hands or feet
  • Changes in breathing
  • Repeated yawning
  • Feeling flushed/turning red

You might notice a change in your child/teen’s mood or behaviours, too.


  • Restlessness
  • No motivation
  • Inability to focus
  • Overwhelming feelings
  • Feeling irritable or angry
  • Sad
  • Anxiety
  • Daydreaming



  • Eating more or less
  • Snapping at others
  • Using drugs or alcohol to cope with the stress
  • Isolating from others
  • Not doing things you enjoy

How to Cope With Stress

Dealing with stress in a healthy way is important. It helps with overall wellness.

Coping Skills are how we deal with stress. It is important to have many different coping skills to use, because we may not be able to use each coping skill all the time.

Healthy coping skills help us deal with stress, solve problems, and help us remain in the present moment. Not every healthy coping skill will work for you/your child. It is about finding what helps you/them.

Healthy coping skills include:


  • Schedule your time
  • Make a to-do list
  • Prioritize tasks
  • Communicate your needs
  • Limit some activities
  • Set boundaries, say “no”



  • Meditate
  • Relaxation techniques
  • Pray
  • Go out in nature
  • Volunteer



  • Eat well
  • Sleep well
  • Keep a routine
  • Take deep breaths
  • Reduce using substances (caffeine, alcohol, or drugs)



  • Think of things you are grateful for
  • Think of solutions for the situations in your life
  • Be adaptable
  • Think of goals
  • Write a pros and cons list
  • Reward yourself for success
  • Think of your strengths
  • Accept the challenge
  • Play a game
  • Know your stress triggers



  • Talk to someone (loved one, counsellor, elder, or spiritual leader)
  • Use assertive communication (Check out healthy relationships for more)
  • Spend time with loved ones
  • Play with a pet
  • Encourage others
  • Use humour
  • Encourage other people

Keeping your mind off things

  • Do something creative (draw, write, paint, sing, or dance)
  • Listen to music
  • Have a shower or bath
  • Garden
  • Go for a walk or drive
  • Watch a funny movie
  • Organize or clean your space
  • Read a book
  • Take a break
  • Go outside
  • Take time for hobbies


Reducing tension

  • Exercise
  • Get the emotions out (yell into a pillow, scribble on a paper)
  • Cry
  • Laugh
  • Practice yoga


How to build healthy coping skills in your home?

  • Practice healthy coping skills
  • Build/encourage healthy relationships
  • Encourage hobbies
  • Go to meditation classes
  • Go for a family hike
  • Learn something new as a family
  • Provide options for when your child/teen is upset
  • Provide a safe place to express emotions

Unhealthy coping skills make the stress worse. They might feel good or help you/your child forget what is stressing you/them out at the moment, but it does not help to reduce stress. It can create more problems.

Unhealthy coping skills include:

  • Criticizing yourself
  • Harming yourself
  • Snapping or being mean to others
  • Emotional eating or not eating enough
  • Using alcohol or drugs
  • Avoiding friends


How to avoid unhealthy coping skills

  • Talk about the risks of unhealthy coping skills
  • Provide other options
  • Connect with someone to talk to (loved one, elder, counsellor, spiritual leader)
  • Encourage healthy connections

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