What to Do
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We have many different types of emotions, and they are all a part of us. Each emotion is important in its own way.
Some of our emotions are comfortable. They make us feel good. They are emotions like happiness, joy, and comfort.
There are others that are uncomfortable. They are the ones which feel a bit more serious. These are emotions like anger, sadness, and loneliness.
There are no good or bad emotions. All of our feelings are important! It is okay to feel each one of them.
How Does It Feel?
Uncomfortable feelings can feel many ways. It honestly can depend on the day.
Uncomfortable emotions can feel like:
- Screaming and shouting
- Hiding away
- Being unkind to others
- Your heart, stomach, or heart hurt
- You are shaking
- Your mind goes blank
- Your feelings are hurt
- Not good enough
- And more
When you are feeling down, there are many ways you can feel. It is okay to have those feelings.
What Are Some Things You Can Do to Calm Down?
It is about expressing your emotions in a healthy way. When you spread your happy emotions with others, that is a healthy way to express them. You are being kind and spreading joy. Sharing your comfortable emotions with others is kind and you can brighten someone’s day.
When we have uncomfortable emotions, we often do not know what to do with them. Sometimes, we do not feel very kind when we have uncomfortable feelings. It is okay that you are feeling those emotions, but it is not okay to hurt yourself or others.
We just need to work through them in a positive way. Think of some activities which help you to feel better. These are positive ways to deal with your emotions.
To deal with uncomfortable emotions you could:
- Go for a walk
- Take a break
- Play a game
- Play with a friend, pet, toys, or sibling
- Take some deep, slow breaths
- Talk to someone you trust
- Read a book
- Play a sport
- Go outside
If you ever feel like:
- Hurting yourself or others
- Controlling things like what you eat
- You have issues expressing yourself
- Constantly worried
- Want to escape reality through things like video games and have a hard time getting out
- Feel sad or angry all the time
- You cannot calm down
If you ever feel like your uncomfortable emotions are staying and will not go away, talk to a trusted adult. They will help you work through your emotions. Sometimes, we need some extra help and that is okay.
You are responsible for your emotions and how you express them. It is okay not to be okay. You just need to reach out for help when you need it.
If the first person you tell does not listen, tell someone else. They will help connect you with someone who can help you feel better. Talking to someone can be challenging but you deserve to feel happy.