Any type of abuse is not okay in a relationship. The person being harmed does not, nor ever, deserved it. This is unhealthy behaviour. Abuse is not limited to being physically harmed.
There are many different types of abuse. Abuse includes:
the use of words or actions to control, dominate, intimidate, degrade, or intentionally harm another person psychologically.
Including: threats, making fun/overly criticizing, spying, controlling, spreading rumours or secrets, isolating, using the other person (emotionally, physically, financially, or sexually), or forcing/convincing a person to do something they do not want to do.
the use of intentional force on another person to control their behaviour, intimidate or punish.
Examples include: scratching, biting, pushing/shoving, grabbing the person’s clothes, preventing the person from leaving a place, strangulation, or using a weapon.
forcing any form of sexual activity on someone without their consent. Any sexual activity forced on another person is sexual assault.
any situation where one person uses verbal or physical means to obtain sexual activity without consent. This includes pressuring someone into saying yes. This is sexual assault.
any unwelcome sexual advance, request for sexual favours, or other forms of verbal, written, or physical conduct of a sexual nature, like making sexual jokes which make people feel uncomfortable, posting offensive online pictures, name-calling based on someone’s gender or sexual orientation, or unwanted touching.
sending sexually explicit images or messages from one person to another using technology.
The law states that sexting between or regarding anyone under 18 is considered possessing and distributing child pornography. Anyone owning a device or accessing these images can be charged.
The law is concerned with the distribution of images and videos and whether one person in the relationship shares those images with other people or the images are leaked.
Any type of violence in a relationship is not okay regardless of whether it happens once or more than once. Tell someone and seek help. Both parties involved need help either developing the skills for healthy relationships or coping with the impact of the violence.
If someone is using/has used violence against you, remember it is not your fault. It does not reflect your worth.
If you are being abused in any of your relationships, tell someone you trust. Even if the person is threatening you or tells you not to tell anyone, you need to tell someone to get help. You deserve to get help.
If you are being abused by an adult in your life, you can call the Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-387-5437 (KIDS). It is available 24/7 in multiple languages. You can also call the Kids Help Phone for support at 1-800-668-6868.
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call 911.
If a friend or someone you know is being abused, tell someone. They need help. You can call the Child Abuse Hotline or a helping/trusted adult.